It is a pleasure to read your last posts -no pun intended- about the act of loving, Kris. Based on an eventually marital relationship of 47 years and the observation of many other successful relationships I fully agree with your definition of loving as a decision to choose for each other and permanently act to mutually invest in each other’s needs. For ROI we have to invest and act. Love is a process that never stops. We both have to earn the returns.

I am still thinking about the role and necessity of physical and intellectual attraction. That is highly personal. We have to find out how much we need them to keep investing, I think. Love is a process of discovery and learning. The moment we decide to love we take a risk. The process of discovery can reveal traits we couldn’t see in the beginning, blinded by infatuation. We shouldn’t fall in love too easily.

Friend of life and beauty and foe of spoilers of life and beauty. Golden marriage. Grandfather. Pianist and micro poet. Dutch, European.

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